Steps you can take today to change your outlook
I was working on editing my own images of my kids the other day and got to this image…
You may think I’m crazy, but as I shot this image all I kept thinking was how ironic it was. Let me explain.
I’m in a place in my life where things are changing. I don’t have any kids at home during the day anymore (they’re all in school), I have one child off to college, and 3 others growing so fast that it’s making my head spin. Just like Ella in this image, I’m maneuvering through life having to take a step left, then right, I have to move up, then down a little but eventually I’ll make it to the other side. I was talking to my husband yesterday about the very same thing.
It’s been around 6 months now of everyone in full time school after almost 7 years at home with someone always here. I’ve had to work around so many momma tasks throughout the day that it’s a little odd to have some time to actually work on my business with no one around. And although that is all great, it also can be very out of sorts for me.
It’s so easy to not put on regular clothes, eat normal meals, or even go to the gym. Even though it can be easy to get into a routine of just being here, I’ve learned I have to put some steps in so that I actually feel productive.
I’ve come up with 10 things I’m going to try out in May to help guide my days. This is provide me with ways to change my own outlook and maybe yours too.
*Get up one whole hour earlier than my children. My plan is to have this time to breathe a little before my day begins by feeding all my kids, scrambling to get their clothes on, and out the door. I’m going to use this time for a gratitude project I’m working on and time with God.
*Plan my days out the week before. Working from home can be tedious and a tad overwhelming. Why? Because I’m a go getter and I can become scattered if I don’t plan. I’ll start working on say this blog post and realize I need to do this or that.
*I’m going to have one day through the week that I do all the stay at home mommy things. Errands, doc apt.s, grocery, bills, cleaning. I tend to do all the things at all the time, and it’s not fair to me or anyone else. I become stretched too thin and I have to remember I need to run my business during business hours.
*Eat breakfast, lunch, & dinner. No, I’m not going to say that my 2nd cup of coffee is a meal. I’m going to actually cook/prepare my meals as if I was working outside of the home.
*Work on one new thing per week to learn either for my photography business, finances, or this precious to my soul blog. Not 20 different things at one time.
*Spend more one on one time with my husband. When all these kids are gone, we have each other and each other alone. I sure better like the person I’m spending the rest of my life with. Fostering that relationship is one of my top priorities.
I wrote a blog post about Marriage here: What I would have told them.
*These kids need a reality check so it’s time to instill some chores again. Don’t get me wrong, they have always helped, but it’s time they had some weekly tasks for themselves. I know it will help enable them to feel secure as well. A little hard work never hurt anyone 😉
*Stay on track with my daily gratitude checkin. On my IG account I share one every single day. This has been really eye opening thing for me. It makes me stop and think of how lucky I am.
*Share more of the scary stuff. I am an open book, but there are some things I want to share that terrify me down to my core. I want to get past that.
*Lastly, find a way to serve someone else someway new. You know what the quickest way to change your outlook? Serving someone else. I’m serious. It can be a meal, a hug, or even a blog post.
I’m a firm believer that in order to change an outlook that you have, you have to change your habits.
Tell me, when you need to change your outlook on something, what do you do?