Creating a system so each child has one on one time
I got asked to share how we make sure each of our kids have one on one time with us on my Facebook page. Truth be told, it’s really hard for us too. I’ve tried a schedule, a print out, and even tried to budget in once a month date nights with each of the kids but the budget was screaming at me. I have found a few things that have worked for us in this season of life.
Side note: I’d like to preface this blog post by saying when I worked outside of the home, it was so dang hard to find any extra time at all, so I see you working moms. I was there where you are.
Ella goes to bed at 8, Jackson at 8:30, & Ryder at 9 so this would be the perfect time to fit in some real talks, book reading, or simply snuggle time. Could there be better things I could be doing at this time? No. They are my most important tasks to undertake. I am raising tiny humans and that honor is not lost on me. Do I get annoyed, exhausted, or simply not in the mood? Of course I do…I’m not a robot.
Unless I’m dying for some alone time, I will usually take one kid with me on an errand run. This is the perfect time to spend some much needed alone time with them while including them in simple tasks like going to the bank (hello, they can get a free sucker), grocery shopping (let them check things off the list), or even like above the dreaded laundry mat when we needed to wash our comforters.
School Field trips
If there is any way humanly possible to attend just one field trip with your child this coming year, I want to urge you to go. Take a vacation day if you work outside the home, barter with another mom to watch a little person who is still at home with you, or even beg a grandparent. I can’t tell you how many thank you’s I get from my kids when I just show up for things like this.
school lunch time
I don’t do this as much as I should, but my gracious alive, my kids LOVE when I come to eat with them at lunch. I’m not sure if it’s the food I bring or my company but I’ll take it either way 😉 Bonus: bring your little ones still at home with you too. Can it be a pain in the butt to bring them? Of course, but you are there and that is what counts.
Get that child who loves to help you cook in that kitchen with you while you make dinner. These little glimpse of time with you are what make those bonds solid as a rock. Yes, you are going to be pulled from one end to the other with multiple children at home, but I’m telling you it can be done.
Give yourself grace
In a world full of you can do this and that better, do this for your kids, don’t do this…
Remember, we are all doing the very best we can with what we know. You can’t do everything the best. It’s impossible. Just make the most of the time you have. We only get this one life to live.