You have me mistaken for someone else
I’m not that mom. I had someone ask me the other day the secret to having it all together. I laughed so hard. So hard. I reminded them I just cleaned a toilet in my house that looked like I was slow cooking a pot roast in it. Cleaning is not my most favorite thing to do. I LOVE to organize, but cleaning is like pulling teeth for me. I mean like deep cleaning: bathrooms, dusting, etc. I know it can be hard to not compare you life to others, but I’m here to tell you…it can be the death of your joy.
That conversation got me thinking. I wondered how many other moms/dads/parents/women were plagued by believing their family was different than everyone else. Trust me, I still have moments that I look from the outside of someone else’s life thinking ‘where did I go wrong?’
My most favorite bloggers/instagram moms/influencers to follow are the ones who put it all out there. They show the nitty gritty details of being parents, running businesses, going to their 9-5 job, and are getting by with just prayer and coffee. I thought about all the times when my two oldest were little that I would have loved to see the hardships of single mothers, how people handled complete meltdowns from their toddlers, and to feel as though I wasn’t alone.
All of those feelings you have…someone else is thinking them to.
- Feelings of inadequacy
- Feelings that you’re not enough
- Feelings of doubt, sadness, & frustration
Here’s the thing. Once we stop whispering self doubt in our own ears, we begin to see all the good we do.
I'm not that mom
I’m not the mom who remembers to send in money for the field trip, but I am the mom who will send extra money in when another child doesn’t have the means to go.
I’m not the mom who will make a beautiful Pinterest homemade Halloween costume, but I will spend an hour with you online picking out the most perfect butterfly wings.
I’m not the mom who will pick you up from school put together in normal clothing for the day, but I will wait for you at the bus stop with a big smile on my face letting you know how much I missed you.
I’m not the mom who will make a full spread breakfast every morning before school, but I will remember to buy you your most favorite cereal at the grocery store.
I’m not the mom who never looses their cool, but I will hug and say ‘I’m sorry’ when I’ve messed up.
I love this quote from Her View From Home:
“I am the mom who tries to feed her children organic and whole foods as much as possible but am not above packing Lunchables or picking up fast food to save her sanity.”
you are the most perfect parent for your children
I am so very very flawed, but I know without a shadow of a doubt, that these kids were made for me to love, to guide, to teach, and to give grace to. Because my goodness, I could use all the grace I can get.